In light of recent fortunate and unfortunate events during Easter break, an evening with the brothers and the constant wondering, I've decided to re-post a truly brilliant entry from one of the blogs to which I subscribe, with some of my favorite comments that other readers left. My two cents is, well, nobody knows shit. At any moment, everything you so firmly believed about human interactions can be blown to smithereens, and there's nothing you can do about it.
The worst thing is that, though I avoid it, even *I'm* in some undefined, inconcrete, platonic kind of situation, and that's the *good* one, because the bad one ended abruptly over the break, "not with a bang, but a whimper".
It's very frustrating. When the fuck did it get so complicated, and most importantly, why?
I know we're all young, wishing to get out there and experience life to the fullest, not feeling tied down to anything or anyone. And that's what youth is all about, but I think there should be some sort of Geneva Convention-style dating ethics in order to reduce the ruthlessness and cynicism that abounds today.
Ah well. "Dating is a rollercoaster - enjoy the ride".
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Here's the entry, from
Yosho's site:
I remember back in high school, things used to be so easy...meet a girl, ask her out, get parents to drive us around, hold hands, kiss, cop a feel, oral sex, sex, anal sex... everything was all planned out in this one linear path.
As I get older, dating has become a lot more complicated. Things don't always go in one direction, actually, I'm not even sure a direction exists anymore.
With Girl #1 it was:Make out, sex, oral sex, anal sex, date
With Girl #2 it was:Date, date, date, date, date, make out, date...
With Girl #3 it was:Make out, Oral sex, find out her name... never see her again
I just don't get it anymore.
What's even worse is that we have a million labels for everything, or no labels at all. A guy and a girl can be: seeing each other, dating, going out, in a relationship, complicated, casual dating, friends with benefits, etc etc... and of course there are those who refuse to use labels and who prefer to remain ambiguous.
Can someone please tell me the difference between exclusively dating and boyfriend girlfriend?
I once asked a girl what her relationship with this guy was and she replied "Oh, we're exclusively dating."
"So you're his girlfriend then?" I questioned.
"No, we're just dating...exclusively"
Errr.... o.O
And another thing, why are girls so afraid of labels? I know girls who refuse to be called a guy's girlfriend, and yet act super lovey dovey around their man and won't date anyone else. Are we really all so insecure and afraid of commitment that we will go through extreme lengths to keep some sort of artificial freedom? Even if it's as simple as refusing to admit to a label? Since when was being a
commitmentphobe cool?
As much as I love my freedom and enjoy having multiple girls around, I think I'm the type of person that's willing to give someone all of my attention and settle down if I like her enough... ambiguity is just not something I enjoy. And if that means sucking it up and slapping a silly title on everything and having her be my *cough* "Girlfriend", than so be it because the alternative is just retarded.
Thoughts?
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My two favorite readers' comments:
"Labels are useful at times.. you know when you want to know if you're actually dating him or if you're just another whore he sleeps with on the weekends. It's absolutely necessary." "not labeling is simply a cop out, yo. it's their way of saying, "i dont want to fuck only YOU." ultimately it means that they're not into you, coz hell, if i ever found a guy i was totally and completely attracted to, you bet im going all in, title and everything, and never let go."
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